What does it mean to become a selfish person?
Merriam Webster dictionary has the following description:
“Selfish = Concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself; Seeking or concentrating on one’s own advantage, pleasure or well-being without regard for others.”
I’m excited today because this is a very different spin on how people think the word selfish.
A lot of us out there being selfish and here’s what I mean.
We’re not taking actions on our dreams – doing the things that we need to do to be successful – because we’re so concerned about how we look, how dumb we may sound, how unintelligent we may think that we are.
Take for instant, public speaking. A lot of you want to be public speakers. You dream of being on stage adding value to other people. One of the biggest things that stops you is what are people going to think about me – “What if my clothes look stupid? What if I sound weird?”
So I want to tell you today. Whatever you’re trying to pursue – whether it’s public speaking, being an entrepreneur, communicating better, all these thoughts that you have swirling in your mind, I want to tell you to stop being selfish!
You heard it right. STOP BEING SELFISH!
Now, let me explain this. When you become so consumed with how you look, act, think, speak or what everybody else is saying, you become self-centered. Your main priority as adding value to someone is to give them what they want. Give them the end results that they’re looking for. This should be your focus 100% — not on anything else.
What happen is when we become too focused on everything else – what we’re thinking, what we’re saying, how we’re feeling, then we take away from the value that the audience should be getting.
This goes towards public speaking, starting a business, communicating better with a spouse, etc.
We need to understand our priority, and our main objective is how do I add value to my audience? How do I add value to the other person?
We’re here to serve. We’re here to add value, to add insights, to help, to transform, so when you look at it from that particular perspective, you have no room to become self-centered – i.e. focused on how you look, how you think, how you dress, and all those different things.
Now you’re focused on the overall vision and mission of what you’re trying to accomplish.
So this is what you got to really keep in mind. This is what you got to focus on.
Focus on the value – more of the value and less of yourself.